Meet Local Singles
Notwithstanding the internet, the best way to meet local singles may still be at a church, a local event, or shopping. As the activities of people become more and more frenetic, too little time is spent in getting to know the people around the neighborhood or even right next door. Look at people who pass you. People hustle and bustle around keeping schedules and keeping up with the Joneses instead of doing the simple things like saying "Hi" to the people they come in contact with. Just the idea of getting back to basics illudes many. The foundations for meeting people have not and will never change. It's just a matter of contact.
That's where the internet has made the most impact. People can now make contact to millions around the world. But, when a person wants to meet local singles; around the world is too far. There must be an easier way to get the job done. Yes, there is an easier way. There are basically 5 steps that a person can to take to make the job of meeting people simple and easy. Meeting people takes very little effort and not much imagination. Step 1. Keep the cell phone put away while in a public place. In case no one has ever brought the concept to your attention, having a private conversation in public is extremely rude. Private conversations in public make everyone around, the person on the telephone, very uncomfortable. The whole concept of closed door phone booths was for the purpose of keeping private conversations private. There seems to be a "new age" idea that whatever a person says on the telephone is for public consumption. Just stop. Hang up the phone.
Step 2. Look at people. Yes, make eye contact with people. Again, another rude habit that has only hit the scene in the last 30 years or so. Prior to that time, most people would actively greet one another daily. This is such an easy way to meet local singles. As a matter of fact, many people knew the majority of their neighbors by name. Because of this, there was likely to be conversations from time to time. These conversations would lead to introductions of other family members, neighbors and friends. Imagine that, meeting someone just 2 doors away without any effort on your part except to say "Hello," "What's up," or "Have a nice day." An introduction couldn't be easier. Try it. When in public, make eye contact and say "Hello." A great smile wouldn't hurt either.
Once a person has established a pattern of speaking to neighbors, then it's time to take Step 3. Simply make a comment or ask a question. Try something like, "What a beautiful day it is today," or "We finally got some much needed rain," or "Do you know what time the pharmacy closes?" These are simply ice-breaker questions. They are benign and non-threatening. Questions and comments like these can be used many times with different people. The purpose of making this "small talk" is for two people to become more comfortable speaking with one another. With the advent of the internet and cell phones, it appears that many people don't pay any attention to people they see in their everyday dealing. This makes it harder and harder to meet local singles. "Now concerning the things whereof ye wrote unto me: It is good for a man not to touch a woman. Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband." (1 Corinthians 7:1-2)
The fourth step that a person should take in trying to meet local singles is to make an offer of some sort. This is not a "line." Please do not use a "pick-up line." This is not the time to ask the person out on a date. Try making a genuine offer to help take something out of a car into the house, or to pick up something from the hardware store, or to mail a letter. The purpose of this step is to be kind. Yes, just be kind. When a person is kind, the recipient of the kindness is more inclined to want to reciprocate. In some cases, that may mean that they want to introduce the person to a family member they think may have some compatibility with the the person. If this happens, BINGO. That means trust has been established. Again, not much effort was involved. These are just normal human behaviors and "good etiquette."
The last step, Step 5 is even more simple than the first four; repeat. When a person makes a habit of eye contact, greeting, small talk, and being kind, it is very easy to meet local singles. Heck, it's easy to meet just about anyone. These days, people stress out over not being able to meet other people. Yet, on a daily basis there are dozens of people passing one another on the street, before and after a church service, at local art fairs and open air markets, and even while waiting in line at the grocery store. The fact that there are people who are more interested in speaking to a person they already know on the telephone, rather than speaking to the person who is standing right next to them, says more to why it's hard to meet local singles than the idea that they are not out there.
If a person is really serious about getting to know people, it's time to slow down. Meet neighbors. Instead of attending the conference out of town, go outside and clean out the car and speak to anyone who passes. Attend the next local food festival, keep the cell phone in the car, smile and speak to people who pass by. When church is finished, greet people and introduce yourself. Meeting folk is really not as difficult as it seems. People have gotten away from the basics. So, don't waste any more time worrying. Just get to know people around your environment; one step at a time. This will make it quite easy to meet local singles.
That's where the internet has made the most impact. People can now make contact to millions around the world. But, when a person wants to meet local singles; around the world is too far. There must be an easier way to get the job done. Yes, there is an easier way. There are basically 5 steps that a person can to take to make the job of meeting people simple and easy. Meeting people takes very little effort and not much imagination. Step 1. Keep the cell phone put away while in a public place. In case no one has ever brought the concept to your attention, having a private conversation in public is extremely rude. Private conversations in public make everyone around, the person on the telephone, very uncomfortable. The whole concept of closed door phone booths was for the purpose of keeping private conversations private. There seems to be a "new age" idea that whatever a person says on the telephone is for public consumption. Just stop. Hang up the phone.
Step 2. Look at people. Yes, make eye contact with people. Again, another rude habit that has only hit the scene in the last 30 years or so. Prior to that time, most people would actively greet one another daily. This is such an easy way to meet local singles. As a matter of fact, many people knew the majority of their neighbors by name. Because of this, there was likely to be conversations from time to time. These conversations would lead to introductions of other family members, neighbors and friends. Imagine that, meeting someone just 2 doors away without any effort on your part except to say "Hello," "What's up," or "Have a nice day." An introduction couldn't be easier. Try it. When in public, make eye contact and say "Hello." A great smile wouldn't hurt either.
Once a person has established a pattern of speaking to neighbors, then it's time to take Step 3. Simply make a comment or ask a question. Try something like, "What a beautiful day it is today," or "We finally got some much needed rain," or "Do you know what time the pharmacy closes?" These are simply ice-breaker questions. They are benign and non-threatening. Questions and comments like these can be used many times with different people. The purpose of making this "small talk" is for two people to become more comfortable speaking with one another. With the advent of the internet and cell phones, it appears that many people don't pay any attention to people they see in their everyday dealing. This makes it harder and harder to meet local singles. "Now concerning the things whereof ye wrote unto me: It is good for a man not to touch a woman. Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband." (1 Corinthians 7:1-2)
The fourth step that a person should take in trying to meet local singles is to make an offer of some sort. This is not a "line." Please do not use a "pick-up line." This is not the time to ask the person out on a date. Try making a genuine offer to help take something out of a car into the house, or to pick up something from the hardware store, or to mail a letter. The purpose of this step is to be kind. Yes, just be kind. When a person is kind, the recipient of the kindness is more inclined to want to reciprocate. In some cases, that may mean that they want to introduce the person to a family member they think may have some compatibility with the the person. If this happens, BINGO. That means trust has been established. Again, not much effort was involved. These are just normal human behaviors and "good etiquette."
The last step, Step 5 is even more simple than the first four; repeat. When a person makes a habit of eye contact, greeting, small talk, and being kind, it is very easy to meet local singles. Heck, it's easy to meet just about anyone. These days, people stress out over not being able to meet other people. Yet, on a daily basis there are dozens of people passing one another on the street, before and after a church service, at local art fairs and open air markets, and even while waiting in line at the grocery store. The fact that there are people who are more interested in speaking to a person they already know on the telephone, rather than speaking to the person who is standing right next to them, says more to why it's hard to meet local singles than the idea that they are not out there.
If a person is really serious about getting to know people, it's time to slow down. Meet neighbors. Instead of attending the conference out of town, go outside and clean out the car and speak to anyone who passes. Attend the next local food festival, keep the cell phone in the car, smile and speak to people who pass by. When church is finished, greet people and introduce yourself. Meeting folk is really not as difficult as it seems. People have gotten away from the basics. So, don't waste any more time worrying. Just get to know people around your environment; one step at a time. This will make it quite easy to meet local singles.
Meet Local Singles
![]()
Reviewed by Anonymous
on
12:35 PM
Rating:
